Keep Calm & Bend Over My Knee For A Spanking...

I know I am not looking for a 'Master'
For someone to be my 'Master'
It has to be an exclusive relationship...
As I am married I am not looking
for an exclusive relationship...
...but I am not looking for
casual, occasional 'no fees exchanged'
mentality,either...

I like to read other peoples BDSM/spanking blogs. It is interesting to read other peoples thoughts, which helps me get my sub life into perspective...

Nooo! I don't need to get my subbie thoughts into perspective...Sheesh!...lol...

Anyway. I was reading the blog "The taming of a shrew"...Her blog post "ABCDEFG...This is what it means to me." She was writing about dynamics & labels. Like DD {Domestic discipline} s/M, etc...

"I was kneeling before him and he pulled me close. “You're not my slave,” he said. “Yes, you're mine. You belong to me. But I also belong to you.”

Belonging to each other...yes. I liked that. He went on to explain that to him, our dynamic is about mutual self-giving. He focuses his efforts on meeting my needs, and I focus my efforts on meeting his. And as I came to learn more about different dynamics, I started to gain a greater appreciation for what they are."

I think that is a great, so called dynamic. A more healthy, less controlling, less emotionally destructive, safe, sane, consensual 'dynamic'...Though. Surely a relationship has nothing to do with dynamics? Just saying...

I don't think I would want a so called DD relationship. From what I gather the 'Domestic' life far outweighs the 'Discipline' part. Play for a few hours every other week, then going back to my 'Domestic' life is more what I am looking for in a D/s relationship...

The same as total obedience & servitude...Not my idea of a D/s relationship. I am married. If anyone is going to tell me what to do & expect obedience. It will be my husband. The same as the arrogant attitude "How can my husband allow another man to spank me"...Ummm! My marriage is no one elses business...I have had a few blokes start asking about my husband. How I see it. My marriage & my husbands opinion. Is none of their business. I did have one nob get quite nasty, but I dare say he would have found some other reason to be a Jerk...

I'm just looking for a trustworthy Dom
to give me a thorough spanking
on a regular basis...
I am just looking for a close loyal friend
who will give me a good thrashing
& leave me feeling totally relaxed
not totally stressed & vice versa...
I  am just looking for a spanking 'release'
not to be bossed around...

Unfortunately there are quite a few nasty, arrogant little men out there, who have bad attitudes towards women. I get the feeling that these men don't particuly like women. Ohh dear did you have a bad experience with some woman...That is not my problem, mate! I am not that woman. Not all women are the same. The same as not all men are the same...

My Ex ex Dom, used to tell me that he got pleasure from pleasuring women 'Plural'...lol...Which was fine with me, but whilst he got all the pleasure & attention. I got the grief. I could tolerate the grief whilst we was playing every other week & going to spanking parties together...

So. I am looking for a Dom who does not feel the need to tell me about his other women...but...If he has already got a sub & I am just a fresh new exciting 'flavor of the month' bottom/ playmate, whilst she is the one...Do me a favour...Don't waste my time...Don't insult my intelligence by lying to me...

Nuff said for now..........................................

50 Shades Of Grey-Looking For My Mister Grey-Preferably Not 50 Shades Of F**ked Up-For Lots Of Kinky 'Spanking!'...

"Mmmm!"
I do love a twitching palm,
it makes me tingle with anticipation...

I'm looking forward to the movie '50 shades of grey' coming out on valentines day. Though I won't be going to see it at the cinema; I am going to wait until it comes out on box office. I'd rather watch it in the privacy of my own home...

Not that I'm expecting much kinky fuckery. The books only had 3 {or was it 2} spankings in the trilogy, but there was lots of sex. I enjoyed reading the books. I thought they was well written...

It was quite amusing seeing how wound up some of the so called real kinky peeps got...Jeeze! Calm down. It is only a book. These people do seem to get easily wound up. Or was it envy. Probably envy...

I know a lot of people read the books. From my cousin to my friends Mum. They seemed to enjoy it...A LOT!...lol...Did more vanilla peeps join the scene? Ummm! I'm not sure about that. The scene can be pretty weird. If you think about it deeply. It is weird! Grown men & women having their bare bottoms smacked. Grown men & women dressing like school kids...Weird!

I can see it from the vanilla persons point of view. You either love it or you think OMFG! these people are crazy. Okay. Maybe not crazy. Just plain ole 'weird freaks' lol...

To the vanilla person. The true vanilla person. Spanking, power exchange, punishing someone for their misdeeds, controlling someone, training someone. Is 'Abusive!' Of course it is. There is a very fine line between being kinky fuckery & some control freak screwing with your mind. This is why I don't do 'Serious!' 'Angry face!' Doms...Jeeze! Mate! It is supposed to be fun...

I'm trying to remember this. Men are not complicated. They are 'Literal creatures' Unless you happen to be my EX Dom {Not my EX ex Dom} He {The EX Dom} was more like a old woman with narcissistic tendencies...

Mind you. When the uncomplicated 'literal creature' is making your life complicated, by literally rubbing other women in your face, then getting off on your reaction. Or the reaction he was hoping for. As in 'Jealousy!'...Lets just say it is not worth the hassle...I am looking for a close friendship, with lots of regular 'intense' 'Mmmm!' spankings...

As a sub I am a 'literal creature' I want a uncomplicated. D/s relationship. I don't give a flying ^&^% that you want to play with LOTS! of other women. I just don't want to see them, hear about them, or put up with the grief they give me when they get jealous; because you give them the impression that you want them...Jeeze! Mate! I just want your friendship, lots of regular play, some input & noooo! crap from your bitches...Oops! I mean friends...Which is actually quite 'Uncomplicated!'...

I don't need daily attention. I just need a little effort on your part. Even if it is just exchanging a few emails each week. I am happy with a few exchanged emails. We both have a vanilla life. I am married. I have my family. I think I would prefer a married Dom. Hopefully he won't be a bottom collector. As in plays with sooo many women he can barely fit me in. Because he has stretched himself so thin. Men are uncomplicated, literal creatures who struggle with multi tasking, lol...

I do want a Dom {My Dom} I don't want to be the other 'just a play mate' sub, to some other subs Dom. Mind you. I say I am a sub, but many would describe me as a spankee. Just a mere spankee. I think BDSM! sm peeps gave us subs into spanking that label...I am so much more then just a spankee. In play I am submissive {No you can't force your cheesy cock down my throat. I will bite you!}

{Smiles sweetly}

Sooo! Do I want my Christian Grey?...

"You are mine"
Only as your sub...
Hopefully my new Dom will be married...

Ummm! Nah! Not really. I just want a Dom who sees me as his kinky equal. Though he gets his pleasure from spanking me. I am not a switch. I just want a Dom who can be a close friend, with out keeping me at arms length. JUST incase I full in love with him. The only love I will ever give my Dom; is the love you give a close friend. I am married. I love my husband. I have no intention of breaking up my marriage for another man...

The saying 'It just happened!'...Ummm! Nooo! If that happens you let it happen. Deep down you wanted it to happen. Maybe you need the attention...Anyway. As I was saying. I just want a Dom who sees me as 'His sub' His priority above all the other 'playmates'. I just want a Dom with some $%^%$% stamina & I don't mean keeping it up...

I mean...I just want a Dom who appreciates what we have got & does not start taking it for granted. I just want a Dom who will not keep me dangling whilst he pursues flavor of the month. If you want to move on to pastures new, please finish our D/s relationship first. I have no problem with you moving on. Just end our D/s relationship first. Don't keep me as back up when flavour of the month goes sour or loses its flavor...


Nuff said for now....................................................

Quotes About BDSM---“I've got a mind to turn you over my knee and spank the spoiled hell out of you” ― Larissa Ione, Sin Undone

" “It's hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That's part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can't refuse anything and can't even move, those voices in your head go silent. All you can do, and all you are permitted to do, is feel.” ― Cherise Sinclair, Dark Citadel "

Or women...
So my husband tells me...
I am not like other sub's either...
My blog is going to be all about me as a sub...

 "Mmmm!" In my case, after a thorough 'intense' thrashing...The after effects, the feeling of total relaxation, a release from all the usual stresses of everyday, real life. Of course real life still applies, but subbie me is separate from real, so called vanilla me...

I love being spanked, for sexual, sensual, erotic, intensely agonising, almost unbearable pain & pleasure, pleasure & pain, which ever...

“It's taking all my self-control not to fuck you on the hood of this car, just to show you that you're mine, and if I want to buy you a fucking car, I'll buy you a fucking car" Christian Grey” ― E.L. James, Fifty Shades of Grey

Oo! Okay Christian, I'll let you buy me a car...

That applies to the right Dom/spanker
for me, too...
I love being spanked,
I used to love going to spanking parties
& playing with lots of different Dom's,
but when it comes to 'real' intense play,
I want a Dom, my Dom, not shared
with many other subs,
Not necessarily exclusive,
but, my Dom...
As they say ignorance is bliss...
Bliss when my Dom is there playing
with me! What I don't know about
can't hurt me...
I don't need to hear about other women,
or witness other women with my Dom,
but, I believe in giving each other space
& treating each other with respect...

That is quite sexy. The words not the car, though...Thrashed into submission, then taken 'Hard!', in the car. Probably the back. Otherwise the gear stick gets in the way...No. I am not into gear stick insertion, lol...

Though, of course some people are...'Each to their own' & all that...

“I urge you all today, especially today during these times of chaos and war, to love yourself without reservations and to love each other without restraint. Unless you're into leather.” ― Margaret Cho

Lol! Mind you, I am not particuly into leather. Unless it is a leather strap, or leather paddle, or 'Mmmm!' a leather belt...Leather masks? Nah!...Leather trousers? Ummm! Maaaybe!...That does depend on who's wearing them. Pot bellies don't tend to look good in tight leather trousers...Just saying...

“I've got a mind to turn you over my knee and spank the spoiled hell out of you” ― Larissa Ione, Sin Undone

Oo!...Except I am not spoiled, in anyway. Well. I used to be a spoiled sub, from all the wonderful play, I was privileged to receive...but not anymore {Sighs}

“Of course it hurts, it’s a spanking. How else would it work?” ― Breanna Hayse, Time Out

{HeeHee} Well of course, the harder the better...Though, preferably from an experienced spanker {Dom} I trust not to go too far & cause me lasting {perminant} harm. The feeling of having a close connection adds to the play, as well...

“You so need a Daddy, little girl.” ― Breanna Hayse, The Game Plan

Ummm! Nooo! Not my thing...I am in no way into age play..."Each to their own"