Are fem subs who are looking for a Daddy Dom. Looking for the attention they had when they was growing up. Or missed when they was growing up??? Or they could just be into Daddy, daughter age play. What do I know, lol...

Gawd! I had a bad night. Well a night of watching Dexter. Strange how you end up loving Dexter, even though he is a murderer. Though. He does only kill bad people...

I know. What has Dexter got to do with spanking...Mind you. On an episode I watched last night. Or was it this morning...Anyway. Dexters policewoman sister has fallen for the 'mature' FBI agent, who has been called in to catch Dexter...

It's complicated...To cut a long story short. The 'mature' FBI agent says to Debbera {Dexters sister}...With the age difference, you're not to old to spank {Or words to that effect}. Then he smacked her on the bottom...

Love being spanked in that position,
but nooo teddies on my bed...

Personally. I think she should be given a long hard, bare bottom spanking over his knee...I know. Its fiction...but...She is so obviously insecure. So obviously needs a Daddy figure in her life. Because growing up. Dexter got all the attention from their father...Its a long story. If you watch Dexter you will know what I am waffling on about...

It got me thinking {No it does not hurt}

"Are fem subs who are looking for a Daddy Dom. Looking for the attention they had when they was growing up. Or missed when they was growing up??? Or they could just be into Daddy, daughter ageplay. What do I know, lol..."

Ohh! Yes! The reason why I think she should be given, a long hard bare bottom spanking, over his knee. Because she is sooo! insecure. The painful, humiliating spanking would be a release. The release you get from a long, intense spanking session, is "Wooo!" I would recommend it as therapy...

Would love to be spanked in that position...
Over a branch like that, in a woods like that...
With nooo! interruptions,
of course, lol...
Early in the morning...
A cool breeze blowing across my hot bottom & pussy...
"Bliss!"

That said...It would only be a positive release, if you was being spanked by a Dom who treats you with respect. A Dom who is emotionally insecure himself {Or herself} would be more emotionally destructive. I don't think it is good for anyone to be treated like s**t, by an insecure person, who seems to get off on other people's hurt...& I don't just mean pain from the spanking...

Spanking is supposed to be fun...& sexual, sensual, erotic, a release, total relaxation. It is supposed to leave you feeling good; not bad. So. I think it is important to steer clear of emotionally screwed up people, who in the long run do you more bad then good; give you more stress, hassle, grief then pleasure...

Sooo! I'm looking for a Daddy, daughter relationship. Maybe when I was in my twenties. If I had got into spanking in my twenties. I know I would have loved to be spanked at that age...but I waited until I was in my 30's. Now I am in my 40's. No way could I pretend to be a little girl, role play or not. It is too close to home for me...having 3 daughters...

Ohh! Yeah! To the arrogant, rude, control freak, abuser. Who decided to bully me. JUST because I asked to meet face to face for a coffee & a chat. In a neutral place...Rather then be cyber Dommed. Wasting my time...Apparently I should stay at home & take care of my daughters & husband...Unbelievable!

So why do certain people feel they can get away with bullying other people, from the safety of their own home. Hidden behind their screen. Anonymous! I suppose you would have to be a emotionally retarded, insecure, arsehole with women issues...Those type of people I try to avoid. Too much unnecessary, unprovoked, hassle. Yet there they are. So here we are sifting through the s**t to find a decent 'safe,sane' Dom...

Social Pariah-In The Spanking Scene-Looking For Fellow Pariah 'Dom!'

I have always been myself,
though myself is quite quiet, aloof {Sometimes} reserved...
To be honest. I can't do the fake, smarmy, hugging, kissing,
& trying soooo! hard to fit in...Its just not me...

I have manoeuvred my desk around so I am now facing the door; my screen is facing the wall, sooo no one can catch me looking at bare bottom spanking pictures. Which means I can write more in my spanking blog...

It appears no one is brave enough to be seen posting in the secret spanking coven, because it would be 'social spanking scene suicide' to be seen consorting with the enemy. God forbid one of the sheep break away from the bleating flock & actually have a mind of their own 'Gasp!'...

Obviously as a quiet person
I don't tend to mingle that well,
so I don't make lots of acquaintances,
but I have made a few good friends...
Personally I prefer to have a few close friends,
then lots of acquaintances...

Ohh Yeah. I suppose I should add that I am not the social pariah I'm inferring to. Though. That said...Maybe I am, lol. Do I care? Not really. I do prefer honest, genuine, people with a mind of their own...

A good friend is coming to see me on Feb 17th. I am contemplating if I should play or not, but when I think about it. I don't want to play. Which is 'frustrating' Why don't I want to play. I used to love being spanked. I used to be insatiable when it come to playing...

"Kids have just come in the door. I did not have to quickly click onto a new tab. My cosy corner is definitely much better for blogging about spanking. I can even look at 'Gasp!' spanking pictures & not get caught..."

My favorite position
to be in, of all times...

Anyway. Finding a Dom/spanker in a WHOLE! spanking scene of people who seem to be looking for a community. LOTS! of occasional, casual play, with lots of occasional, casual men & women, is not easy. I'm looking for just one Dom. Not a different Dom every other week. Where as lots of Doms. If they are indeed 'Dom' seem to be looking for a variety of bottoms to choose from...

The majority of men are switch. No offense to the switch men, but most of the time they are more sub then Dom. If I could find a 50/50 Dom that might be Dom enough, but the switch men are usually nearer 70/30. 30% Dom is not...Ummm! Dom enough for me....

Or they appear to be more into role play. I am not into role play. I find it embarrassing. I am a grown woman. To me. Acting like a little girl is just plain...Ummm! Embarrassing. I do try to see it from the other role play persons point of view..."Each to their own"...

I have been canedmany times  in that position
Not sure if that is my fav position
Ummm! Probably not...
I prefer being caned
bent over the arm or back of the sette...
Mind you, that is a " Mmmm!" position
especially if you can lay across the stool
& feel supported...

Fine. If you want to wear frumpy clothes, put on a squeaky voice & act like a prat. Good for you...I personally prefer the more grown up sexy school/college girl approach. I have seen a woman in a more sexy school uniform, being herself. She was not a skinny woman. She had womanly curves, but she did look the part. Her personality shone out...I suppose her confidence is quite sexy...

Nooo! I'm not a lesbian. Not that I have a problem with lesbians...I don't actually have any issues with any women. Just the bitches who give us woman a bad name. Ohh! & the tosser men, but I won't go into that right now. That is for another blog post...

I do try to see the good in people, but sometimes their bad traits outweigh the good. I suppose some of the bitchy attitude from some women comes from feelings of jealousy, insecurity, emotional issues. There are a LOT of women in the scene who seem to crave attention...As I have been saying for gawd knows how long "Real life still applies"...

Gawd! Looking at these spanking art pictures I feel really "Mmmm!" Spank me. I want a good, long, thorough, intense, almost unbearable 'Real' spanking, but...With the right Dom for me...{Sighs}

"Mmmm!" I love being held secure in place,
whilst being giving a almost unbearable spanking...

The thing is. To find the right Dom I need to sift through a LOT of blokes. So I need to make up a questionare. Number 1 question being. 1] What do you think of the Bs site?...Now. It all depends on how he answers this question. If he is in with the bitter twisted jealous bitchy bullying group...Bye-Bye...From my experience. My type of people are not into bullying others...

I suppose you could say I am bullying them, by writing about them in my blog. They are welcome to put me right if they feel I am wrong...

I'm not looking for one of their enemies. I am more looking for "I don't get involved!". Its like the bullies bully some woman. The women talks to a friend about it. He then decides to go & start a controversial debate. Well. He wound up the culprits & they took the bait. Now the bullies believe that they know who this bloke is. In their usual up themselves arrogance. They are right. So they make assumptions. Even though they have no proof that this person they are accusing of being the one who dared to stir them up. Of course they are right...Hmmm! The word 'Arrogant' springs to mind. I really don't want to meet a Dom who is associated with those types of people...

Love this pic...
It somehow reminds me of my Ex ex Dom...
Nuns & tartan skirts...
Now I'm tingling...

I don't usually dictate to people who they can & can't talk to, but in this case I'd rather not get involved with people who see bullies as being good people to be friends with...Now. Someone who speaks their mind & sticks up for themselves, that is fine. We're all entitled to our own opinion & reaction. I just can't be dealing with control freaks...'Think like us, or we will bully you'...Hmmm! People like that are best avoided...Just give me a good spanking & be done with it...Sheesh! All this drama & still not a good Dom among them lol...

I could be all positive. All airy fairy 'Blessed be!' but...How boring is that. I believe in positive thinking. I am a positive person. Though some people assume quiet introverts are 'meek mild timid lil mice' Have they not heard the saying 'the quiet ones are the worse'. Quiet people can be happy, positive peeps too. Once we accept ourselves as being introverts & think 'Screw you!' to the ignorant peeps...

Gotta go..........................................

A Good Old Fashioned Over The Knee Spanking-Sir Sitting On A Kitchen Chair-Or Caned Whilst Bent Over My New Dining Table...

I borrowed this picture, from the blog
'My personal thinking spot" {good blog name}

Wow! I must be losing my subbie side...I just realised. That the whole time I was looking at tables & chairs, it never once crossed my mind 'Bent over the table for a caning'...Or...Over the knee spanking, with my Dom/spanker, sitting on the chair. I love over the knee spanking in that position, but, it never entered my mind...

I still have all the fond, 'Mmmm!' memories...Luckily for me, or unluckily, which ever way you look at it, I have got one of these annoying, aggravating memories, where I remember stuff from years ago, including the niggly little details. The 'Mmmm!' details are fine, its just the negative stuff I could do with forgetting...

I borrowed this picture from the  blog
'Words on the bottom' {Another good blog name}

As we bought 2 tables & 8 chairs, which turned into 12, when I opened one of the drop leaf tables; for christmas. I now have a spare chair, to turn into my over the knee spanking chair. Oo! Or kneel on the seat of one chair, bend over the back, with my hands on the other chair. The options are endless, lol...


I will decoupage my spanking chairs, to look all spanko like. Pink with red stripes? One of the drop leaf tables is going to be my art/craft work station. So I have a place to do my painting & mosaicing...I love doing mosaic, but it tends to make a mess & take up too much space in my kitchen on the worktop...

I borrowed this pic, from the site
' Kimberly Sleep Spanking '
I do like that position,
I have been spanked  in that position,
but, Nah! The table would collapse on me...

Being a drop leaf table, it is narrow enough to bend over, so your arms & head are low, bottom high...I remember being caned, from cold, whilst bent over my old dining table...Sooo! My new years resolution for 2015, is to get back into spanking & maybe going to events. I will decoupage my spanking chairs. Might decoupage my drop leaf/spanking table, as well...

The only problem is. How do I get back into it, after so long & having lost my confidence. I am working on my confidence. Getting everything scene like into perspective. Though. I am adamant that I will no longer accept being treated like I am the safe option. I am going to be the 'best option'. Of course I will still be myself, just a more confident, less likely to settle for whatever, me...