Keep Calm & Bend Over My Knee For A Spanking...

I know I am not looking for a 'Master'
For someone to be my 'Master'
It has to be an exclusive relationship...
As I am married I am not looking
for an exclusive relationship...
...but I am not looking for
casual, occasional 'no fees exchanged'
mentality,either...

I like to read other peoples BDSM/spanking blogs. It is interesting to read other peoples thoughts, which helps me get my sub life into perspective...

Nooo! I don't need to get my subbie thoughts into perspective...Sheesh!...lol...

Anyway. I was reading the blog "The taming of a shrew"...Her blog post "ABCDEFG...This is what it means to me." She was writing about dynamics & labels. Like DD {Domestic discipline} s/M, etc...

"I was kneeling before him and he pulled me close. “You're not my slave,” he said. “Yes, you're mine. You belong to me. But I also belong to you.”

Belonging to each other...yes. I liked that. He went on to explain that to him, our dynamic is about mutual self-giving. He focuses his efforts on meeting my needs, and I focus my efforts on meeting his. And as I came to learn more about different dynamics, I started to gain a greater appreciation for what they are."

I think that is a great, so called dynamic. A more healthy, less controlling, less emotionally destructive, safe, sane, consensual 'dynamic'...Though. Surely a relationship has nothing to do with dynamics? Just saying...

I don't think I would want a so called DD relationship. From what I gather the 'Domestic' life far outweighs the 'Discipline' part. Play for a few hours every other week, then going back to my 'Domestic' life is more what I am looking for in a D/s relationship...

The same as total obedience & servitude...Not my idea of a D/s relationship. I am married. If anyone is going to tell me what to do & expect obedience. It will be my husband. The same as the arrogant attitude "How can my husband allow another man to spank me"...Ummm! My marriage is no one elses business...I have had a few blokes start asking about my husband. How I see it. My marriage & my husbands opinion. Is none of their business. I did have one nob get quite nasty, but I dare say he would have found some other reason to be a Jerk...

I'm just looking for a trustworthy Dom
to give me a thorough spanking
on a regular basis...
I am just looking for a close loyal friend
who will give me a good thrashing
& leave me feeling totally relaxed
not totally stressed & vice versa...
I  am just looking for a spanking 'release'
not to be bossed around...

Unfortunately there are quite a few nasty, arrogant little men out there, who have bad attitudes towards women. I get the feeling that these men don't particuly like women. Ohh dear did you have a bad experience with some woman...That is not my problem, mate! I am not that woman. Not all women are the same. The same as not all men are the same...

My Ex ex Dom, used to tell me that he got pleasure from pleasuring women 'Plural'...lol...Which was fine with me, but whilst he got all the pleasure & attention. I got the grief. I could tolerate the grief whilst we was playing every other week & going to spanking parties together...

So. I am looking for a Dom who does not feel the need to tell me about his other women...but...If he has already got a sub & I am just a fresh new exciting 'flavor of the month' bottom/ playmate, whilst she is the one...Do me a favour...Don't waste my time...Don't insult my intelligence by lying to me...

Nuff said for now..........................................

I have lots of fond memories of being caned whilst bent over the back of the settee. Just the right position for Sir to cane my sit spot "Oowww!"

I was just listening to a youtube video clip about how our thoughts affect the energy around us. Positive energy has a higher vibration then negative energy...

So. I am going to fill my spanking blog with spanking pictures which make me tingle. As in pictures which make me feel "Mmmm!" I want to be spanked like that. I wish that was me in that position...

Mind you. My arms tied like that, bent behind my back..."Ouch!" I might well be thinking more about the pain in my arms then in my bottom...Good arm stretch though, for toning your arms...

I was just remembering being spanked in that position, but I was not restrained. It is quite a comfy position. If you have a cushion under your knees of course. I don't mind my bottom burning, but nooo carpet burns please...

If you was tied up like that; you could literally not move. Not wriggle away from the painful stinging spanks..."Mmmm!" I think that would be quite...Ummm! 'Intense!' I suppose. I imagine you could take even more pain then usual, because your mind would be focused on how restrained you are. I think I would like to try that spanking position. Of course I would have to trust the Dom I am playing with...

This picture brings back many fond memories & makes me want a good leathering, whilst bent over the arm of the settee...{Sighs}

I tried to go back to my lady Karen, promiscuous ward of Sir Stephen; fantasy melodrama, last night...but I fell asleep. I'll try again tonight...

You never know. Maybe the high frequency vibrations will reach my ideal Dom. Who is also highly charged with erotic kinky energy, lol...

My ideal Dom will be on the same frequency as me, but he will get his pleasure from giving me a very 'Mmmm!' pleasurable, 'intense!' thrashing. One of the many pleasures I got from playing with my Ex ex Dom. I could feel how much he was enjoying spanking me...No. Not that...Sheesh!

I feel my last D/s relationship
broke down through lack of effort...

Though. That can be quite nice...Just not with a near stranger who is just after free sex. I am not looking for a bloke to have sex with. I am into being spanked, not sex. If I want sex I will go to a sex club with my husband...

Actually I have been to a sex/swinging party with my husband, but it was sooo! boring...{Yawns!} Mind you the hosts had no idea about setting the mood. Bright lights & no music does not set the mood for dirty sex with a complete stranger...Mind you I am not into dirty sex...Definitely not into creepy, pervy, leering old men {Shudders!}...

A couple at this party were into dogging. They was telling us all about it. I was thinking 'Eeeewww!' Do I really want to get intimate with you. I don't know what I might catch...

I love this picture, but I don't like corner time. I am not into corner time. I avoid bossy Doms who think it is their Domly right to force me into absolute obedience in the corner...WTF!... %^&^ off! & find a woman into standing or kneeling in corners...

Also. I avoid arrogant Dom's who believe it is their Dom given right to punish me & dictate how I behave. You don't like women who swear? Don't give me cause to swear at you then...Hmmm!

{Smiles sweetly & flutters eyelashes}

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I need longer legs to get into that position. Or a chair with a lower back of course...I have lots of fond memories of being caned whilst bent over the back of the settee. Just the right position for Sir to cane my sit spot "Oowww!"  I used to end up kicking both legs up at the same time...I do miss being given long, almost unbearable thrashings, where I end up floating off into subbie land...

Actually I don't think I could take that much of a caning now days. I will have to build up. A bit like with exercise, lol...

Spanking Art Of Paula Meadows , Patty,and Sarah Swain

There Are Devilish Thought Even In The Most Angelic Minds...

Looking at spanking pictures got me so turned on, I needed to take a bath for some private 'alone' time. All I need now is to keep myself motivated towards my goal of slimming into my bloomers...

I have a bloomer thing going on, lol...I think I was born in the wrong era, but then again; imagine NO! internet 'Gasp!'...Also. All that being a subservient 'lady' I can be a lady, but not sure about the subservient part. I would spend sooo much time over my Masters knee...'Mmmm!'...

I used to help myself full asleep, by fantasising about my own spanking melodrama...I was lady Karen. Sir Stephens {My Ex ex Dom} promiscuous ward...It did used to help me sleep...A virtual spanking & a orgasm, what more do you need, lol...Other then the real spanking {Sighs}

I believe in the power of our own mind. I believe in visualisation. I don't believe in airy, fairy, magic, but I do believe we are capable of manifesting what we most want through our own thoughts. When I was fantasising about being lady Karen, being spanked by Sir Stephen. I was getting exactly what I fantasised about. As soon as I stopped fantasising I stopped getting the 'Mmmm!' spankings. Probably because when I was fantasising about it I was more open to receive it...

Oo! Interesting position. In my fantasy there would not be lots of people standing around watching. It would not be a soldier. It would be my guardian 'Sir Stephen' In a field, bent over a water trough. Surrounded by woodland. Our horses grazing on the lush meadow grass...

Imagine the cool breeze blowing across your stinging, burning welts...{Sighs}

I have been having trouble sleeping lately. Maybe I should go back to my fantasy melodrama. I used to fall asleep pretty quick & sleep quite well...I also was having a great time with my then Dom...

K will be here soon. For our usual red wine & a good old natter; evening...

We do miss going to spanking parties, but the way the parties used to be. I miss playing with lots of different men {Party spankings} Also. That feeling of playing with lots of different Doms. Then going over my Sirs knee for a spanking which always felt so much better, because we had that close connection which comes from playing one to one; comes from having a close D/s relationship. It is a pity that all changed...Ohh well. Life goes on. Maybe one day I will have that kind of D/s relationship & close connection with another Dom...

Gotta go...........................................

Social Pariah-In The Spanking Scene-Looking For Fellow Pariah 'Dom!'

I have always been myself,
though myself is quite quiet, aloof {Sometimes} reserved...
To be honest. I can't do the fake, smarmy, hugging, kissing,
& trying soooo! hard to fit in...Its just not me...

I have manoeuvred my desk around so I am now facing the door; my screen is facing the wall, sooo no one can catch me looking at bare bottom spanking pictures. Which means I can write more in my spanking blog...

It appears no one is brave enough to be seen posting in the secret spanking coven, because it would be 'social spanking scene suicide' to be seen consorting with the enemy. God forbid one of the sheep break away from the bleating flock & actually have a mind of their own 'Gasp!'...

Obviously as a quiet person
I don't tend to mingle that well,
so I don't make lots of acquaintances,
but I have made a few good friends...
Personally I prefer to have a few close friends,
then lots of acquaintances...

Ohh Yeah. I suppose I should add that I am not the social pariah I'm inferring to. Though. That said...Maybe I am, lol. Do I care? Not really. I do prefer honest, genuine, people with a mind of their own...

A good friend is coming to see me on Feb 17th. I am contemplating if I should play or not, but when I think about it. I don't want to play. Which is 'frustrating' Why don't I want to play. I used to love being spanked. I used to be insatiable when it come to playing...

"Kids have just come in the door. I did not have to quickly click onto a new tab. My cosy corner is definitely much better for blogging about spanking. I can even look at 'Gasp!' spanking pictures & not get caught..."

My favorite position
to be in, of all times...

Anyway. Finding a Dom/spanker in a WHOLE! spanking scene of people who seem to be looking for a community. LOTS! of occasional, casual play, with lots of occasional, casual men & women, is not easy. I'm looking for just one Dom. Not a different Dom every other week. Where as lots of Doms. If they are indeed 'Dom' seem to be looking for a variety of bottoms to choose from...

The majority of men are switch. No offense to the switch men, but most of the time they are more sub then Dom. If I could find a 50/50 Dom that might be Dom enough, but the switch men are usually nearer 70/30. 30% Dom is not...Ummm! Dom enough for me....

Or they appear to be more into role play. I am not into role play. I find it embarrassing. I am a grown woman. To me. Acting like a little girl is just plain...Ummm! Embarrassing. I do try to see it from the other role play persons point of view..."Each to their own"...

I have been canedmany times  in that position
Not sure if that is my fav position
Ummm! Probably not...
I prefer being caned
bent over the arm or back of the sette...
Mind you, that is a " Mmmm!" position
especially if you can lay across the stool
& feel supported...

Fine. If you want to wear frumpy clothes, put on a squeaky voice & act like a prat. Good for you...I personally prefer the more grown up sexy school/college girl approach. I have seen a woman in a more sexy school uniform, being herself. She was not a skinny woman. She had womanly curves, but she did look the part. Her personality shone out...I suppose her confidence is quite sexy...

Nooo! I'm not a lesbian. Not that I have a problem with lesbians...I don't actually have any issues with any women. Just the bitches who give us woman a bad name. Ohh! & the tosser men, but I won't go into that right now. That is for another blog post...

I do try to see the good in people, but sometimes their bad traits outweigh the good. I suppose some of the bitchy attitude from some women comes from feelings of jealousy, insecurity, emotional issues. There are a LOT of women in the scene who seem to crave attention...As I have been saying for gawd knows how long "Real life still applies"...

Gawd! Looking at these spanking art pictures I feel really "Mmmm!" Spank me. I want a good, long, thorough, intense, almost unbearable 'Real' spanking, but...With the right Dom for me...{Sighs}

"Mmmm!" I love being held secure in place,
whilst being giving a almost unbearable spanking...

The thing is. To find the right Dom I need to sift through a LOT of blokes. So I need to make up a questionare. Number 1 question being. 1] What do you think of the Bs site?...Now. It all depends on how he answers this question. If he is in with the bitter twisted jealous bitchy bullying group...Bye-Bye...From my experience. My type of people are not into bullying others...

I suppose you could say I am bullying them, by writing about them in my blog. They are welcome to put me right if they feel I am wrong...

I'm not looking for one of their enemies. I am more looking for "I don't get involved!". Its like the bullies bully some woman. The women talks to a friend about it. He then decides to go & start a controversial debate. Well. He wound up the culprits & they took the bait. Now the bullies believe that they know who this bloke is. In their usual up themselves arrogance. They are right. So they make assumptions. Even though they have no proof that this person they are accusing of being the one who dared to stir them up. Of course they are right...Hmmm! The word 'Arrogant' springs to mind. I really don't want to meet a Dom who is associated with those types of people...

Love this pic...
It somehow reminds me of my Ex ex Dom...
Nuns & tartan skirts...
Now I'm tingling...

I don't usually dictate to people who they can & can't talk to, but in this case I'd rather not get involved with people who see bullies as being good people to be friends with...Now. Someone who speaks their mind & sticks up for themselves, that is fine. We're all entitled to our own opinion & reaction. I just can't be dealing with control freaks...'Think like us, or we will bully you'...Hmmm! People like that are best avoided...Just give me a good spanking & be done with it...Sheesh! All this drama & still not a good Dom among them lol...

I could be all positive. All airy fairy 'Blessed be!' but...How boring is that. I believe in positive thinking. I am a positive person. Though some people assume quiet introverts are 'meek mild timid lil mice' Have they not heard the saying 'the quiet ones are the worse'. Quiet people can be happy, positive peeps too. Once we accept ourselves as being introverts & think 'Screw you!' to the ignorant peeps...

Gotta go..........................................

A Well Deserved Caning!

Roll on new years day. I can't wait to get started on my 'healthy eating' {mediterranean} diet...Once all the booze {Well advocat} has gone {I can drink red wine on my mediterranean diet} & all the chocolates, mince pies, 'Mmmm!' boozy cream...Anyway. Once the Christmas grub has gone we {Hubby is joining me} will stock up the cupboards, fridge & freezer with healthy stuff...

A well deserved caning...

My favorite implement. I love being caned, but I only get pleasure being caned, when I can totally relax & let myself go, knowing that the Dom caning me is not going to go to far & cause me lasting damage...

I have many fond memories of being caned in that position...The almost unbearable, sharp cutting, burning pain, building up from a sharp sting to...hot, burning, no pain just pleasure. The pain is still there but I am getting pleasure from it rather then wanting to pull away from it. I lift my bottom to meet each burning stroke, instead of squirming to escape.............................................

Art by Max Safonov

"Mmmm!" I would love to be thrashed in that position, but by a priest/Dom... please...

Looking at that picture, I can almost imagine the pain...'Bliss!'...