Are fem subs who are looking for a Daddy Dom. Looking for the attention they had when they was growing up. Or missed when they was growing up??? Or they could just be into Daddy, daughter age play. What do I know, lol...

Gawd! I had a bad night. Well a night of watching Dexter. Strange how you end up loving Dexter, even though he is a murderer. Though. He does only kill bad people...

I know. What has Dexter got to do with spanking...Mind you. On an episode I watched last night. Or was it this morning...Anyway. Dexters policewoman sister has fallen for the 'mature' FBI agent, who has been called in to catch Dexter...

It's complicated...To cut a long story short. The 'mature' FBI agent says to Debbera {Dexters sister}...With the age difference, you're not to old to spank {Or words to that effect}. Then he smacked her on the bottom...

Love being spanked in that position,
but nooo teddies on my bed...

Personally. I think she should be given a long hard, bare bottom spanking over his knee...I know. Its fiction...but...She is so obviously insecure. So obviously needs a Daddy figure in her life. Because growing up. Dexter got all the attention from their father...Its a long story. If you watch Dexter you will know what I am waffling on about...

It got me thinking {No it does not hurt}

"Are fem subs who are looking for a Daddy Dom. Looking for the attention they had when they was growing up. Or missed when they was growing up??? Or they could just be into Daddy, daughter ageplay. What do I know, lol..."

Ohh! Yes! The reason why I think she should be given, a long hard bare bottom spanking, over his knee. Because she is sooo! insecure. The painful, humiliating spanking would be a release. The release you get from a long, intense spanking session, is "Wooo!" I would recommend it as therapy...

Would love to be spanked in that position...
Over a branch like that, in a woods like that...
With nooo! interruptions,
of course, lol...
Early in the morning...
A cool breeze blowing across my hot bottom & pussy...
"Bliss!"

That said...It would only be a positive release, if you was being spanked by a Dom who treats you with respect. A Dom who is emotionally insecure himself {Or herself} would be more emotionally destructive. I don't think it is good for anyone to be treated like s**t, by an insecure person, who seems to get off on other people's hurt...& I don't just mean pain from the spanking...

Spanking is supposed to be fun...& sexual, sensual, erotic, a release, total relaxation. It is supposed to leave you feeling good; not bad. So. I think it is important to steer clear of emotionally screwed up people, who in the long run do you more bad then good; give you more stress, hassle, grief then pleasure...

Sooo! I'm looking for a Daddy, daughter relationship. Maybe when I was in my twenties. If I had got into spanking in my twenties. I know I would have loved to be spanked at that age...but I waited until I was in my 30's. Now I am in my 40's. No way could I pretend to be a little girl, role play or not. It is too close to home for me...having 3 daughters...

Ohh! Yeah! To the arrogant, rude, control freak, abuser. Who decided to bully me. JUST because I asked to meet face to face for a coffee & a chat. In a neutral place...Rather then be cyber Dommed. Wasting my time...Apparently I should stay at home & take care of my daughters & husband...Unbelievable!

So why do certain people feel they can get away with bullying other people, from the safety of their own home. Hidden behind their screen. Anonymous! I suppose you would have to be a emotionally retarded, insecure, arsehole with women issues...Those type of people I try to avoid. Too much unnecessary, unprovoked, hassle. Yet there they are. So here we are sifting through the s**t to find a decent 'safe,sane' Dom...

Keep Calm & Bend Over My Knee For A Spanking...

I know I am not looking for a 'Master'
For someone to be my 'Master'
It has to be an exclusive relationship...
As I am married I am not looking
for an exclusive relationship...
...but I am not looking for
casual, occasional 'no fees exchanged'
mentality,either...

I like to read other peoples BDSM/spanking blogs. It is interesting to read other peoples thoughts, which helps me get my sub life into perspective...

Nooo! I don't need to get my subbie thoughts into perspective...Sheesh!...lol...

Anyway. I was reading the blog "The taming of a shrew"...Her blog post "ABCDEFG...This is what it means to me." She was writing about dynamics & labels. Like DD {Domestic discipline} s/M, etc...

"I was kneeling before him and he pulled me close. “You're not my slave,” he said. “Yes, you're mine. You belong to me. But I also belong to you.”

Belonging to each other...yes. I liked that. He went on to explain that to him, our dynamic is about mutual self-giving. He focuses his efforts on meeting my needs, and I focus my efforts on meeting his. And as I came to learn more about different dynamics, I started to gain a greater appreciation for what they are."

I think that is a great, so called dynamic. A more healthy, less controlling, less emotionally destructive, safe, sane, consensual 'dynamic'...Though. Surely a relationship has nothing to do with dynamics? Just saying...

I don't think I would want a so called DD relationship. From what I gather the 'Domestic' life far outweighs the 'Discipline' part. Play for a few hours every other week, then going back to my 'Domestic' life is more what I am looking for in a D/s relationship...

The same as total obedience & servitude...Not my idea of a D/s relationship. I am married. If anyone is going to tell me what to do & expect obedience. It will be my husband. The same as the arrogant attitude "How can my husband allow another man to spank me"...Ummm! My marriage is no one elses business...I have had a few blokes start asking about my husband. How I see it. My marriage & my husbands opinion. Is none of their business. I did have one nob get quite nasty, but I dare say he would have found some other reason to be a Jerk...

I'm just looking for a trustworthy Dom
to give me a thorough spanking
on a regular basis...
I am just looking for a close loyal friend
who will give me a good thrashing
& leave me feeling totally relaxed
not totally stressed & vice versa...
I  am just looking for a spanking 'release'
not to be bossed around...

Unfortunately there are quite a few nasty, arrogant little men out there, who have bad attitudes towards women. I get the feeling that these men don't particuly like women. Ohh dear did you have a bad experience with some woman...That is not my problem, mate! I am not that woman. Not all women are the same. The same as not all men are the same...

My Ex ex Dom, used to tell me that he got pleasure from pleasuring women 'Plural'...lol...Which was fine with me, but whilst he got all the pleasure & attention. I got the grief. I could tolerate the grief whilst we was playing every other week & going to spanking parties together...

So. I am looking for a Dom who does not feel the need to tell me about his other women...but...If he has already got a sub & I am just a fresh new exciting 'flavor of the month' bottom/ playmate, whilst she is the one...Do me a favour...Don't waste my time...Don't insult my intelligence by lying to me...

Nuff said for now..........................................

50 Shades Of Grey-Looking For My Mister Grey-Preferably Not 50 Shades Of F**ked Up-For Lots Of Kinky 'Spanking!'...

"Mmmm!"
I do love a twitching palm,
it makes me tingle with anticipation...

I'm looking forward to the movie '50 shades of grey' coming out on valentines day. Though I won't be going to see it at the cinema; I am going to wait until it comes out on box office. I'd rather watch it in the privacy of my own home...

Not that I'm expecting much kinky fuckery. The books only had 3 {or was it 2} spankings in the trilogy, but there was lots of sex. I enjoyed reading the books. I thought they was well written...

It was quite amusing seeing how wound up some of the so called real kinky peeps got...Jeeze! Calm down. It is only a book. These people do seem to get easily wound up. Or was it envy. Probably envy...

I know a lot of people read the books. From my cousin to my friends Mum. They seemed to enjoy it...A LOT!...lol...Did more vanilla peeps join the scene? Ummm! I'm not sure about that. The scene can be pretty weird. If you think about it deeply. It is weird! Grown men & women having their bare bottoms smacked. Grown men & women dressing like school kids...Weird!

I can see it from the vanilla persons point of view. You either love it or you think OMFG! these people are crazy. Okay. Maybe not crazy. Just plain ole 'weird freaks' lol...

To the vanilla person. The true vanilla person. Spanking, power exchange, punishing someone for their misdeeds, controlling someone, training someone. Is 'Abusive!' Of course it is. There is a very fine line between being kinky fuckery & some control freak screwing with your mind. This is why I don't do 'Serious!' 'Angry face!' Doms...Jeeze! Mate! It is supposed to be fun...

I'm trying to remember this. Men are not complicated. They are 'Literal creatures' Unless you happen to be my EX Dom {Not my EX ex Dom} He {The EX Dom} was more like a old woman with narcissistic tendencies...

Mind you. When the uncomplicated 'literal creature' is making your life complicated, by literally rubbing other women in your face, then getting off on your reaction. Or the reaction he was hoping for. As in 'Jealousy!'...Lets just say it is not worth the hassle...I am looking for a close friendship, with lots of regular 'intense' 'Mmmm!' spankings...

As a sub I am a 'literal creature' I want a uncomplicated. D/s relationship. I don't give a flying ^&^% that you want to play with LOTS! of other women. I just don't want to see them, hear about them, or put up with the grief they give me when they get jealous; because you give them the impression that you want them...Jeeze! Mate! I just want your friendship, lots of regular play, some input & noooo! crap from your bitches...Oops! I mean friends...Which is actually quite 'Uncomplicated!'...

I don't need daily attention. I just need a little effort on your part. Even if it is just exchanging a few emails each week. I am happy with a few exchanged emails. We both have a vanilla life. I am married. I have my family. I think I would prefer a married Dom. Hopefully he won't be a bottom collector. As in plays with sooo many women he can barely fit me in. Because he has stretched himself so thin. Men are uncomplicated, literal creatures who struggle with multi tasking, lol...

I do want a Dom {My Dom} I don't want to be the other 'just a play mate' sub, to some other subs Dom. Mind you. I say I am a sub, but many would describe me as a spankee. Just a mere spankee. I think BDSM! sm peeps gave us subs into spanking that label...I am so much more then just a spankee. In play I am submissive {No you can't force your cheesy cock down my throat. I will bite you!}

{Smiles sweetly}

Sooo! Do I want my Christian Grey?...

"You are mine"
Only as your sub...
Hopefully my new Dom will be married...

Ummm! Nah! Not really. I just want a Dom who sees me as his kinky equal. Though he gets his pleasure from spanking me. I am not a switch. I just want a Dom who can be a close friend, with out keeping me at arms length. JUST incase I full in love with him. The only love I will ever give my Dom; is the love you give a close friend. I am married. I love my husband. I have no intention of breaking up my marriage for another man...

The saying 'It just happened!'...Ummm! Nooo! If that happens you let it happen. Deep down you wanted it to happen. Maybe you need the attention...Anyway. As I was saying. I just want a Dom who sees me as 'His sub' His priority above all the other 'playmates'. I just want a Dom with some $%^%$% stamina & I don't mean keeping it up...

I mean...I just want a Dom who appreciates what we have got & does not start taking it for granted. I just want a Dom who will not keep me dangling whilst he pursues flavor of the month. If you want to move on to pastures new, please finish our D/s relationship first. I have no problem with you moving on. Just end our D/s relationship first. Don't keep me as back up when flavour of the month goes sour or loses its flavor...


Nuff said for now....................................................

A Good Old Fashioned Over The Knee Spanking-Sir Sitting On A Kitchen Chair-Or Caned Whilst Bent Over My New Dining Table...

I borrowed this picture, from the blog
'My personal thinking spot" {good blog name}

Wow! I must be losing my subbie side...I just realised. That the whole time I was looking at tables & chairs, it never once crossed my mind 'Bent over the table for a caning'...Or...Over the knee spanking, with my Dom/spanker, sitting on the chair. I love over the knee spanking in that position, but, it never entered my mind...

I still have all the fond, 'Mmmm!' memories...Luckily for me, or unluckily, which ever way you look at it, I have got one of these annoying, aggravating memories, where I remember stuff from years ago, including the niggly little details. The 'Mmmm!' details are fine, its just the negative stuff I could do with forgetting...

I borrowed this picture from the  blog
'Words on the bottom' {Another good blog name}

As we bought 2 tables & 8 chairs, which turned into 12, when I opened one of the drop leaf tables; for christmas. I now have a spare chair, to turn into my over the knee spanking chair. Oo! Or kneel on the seat of one chair, bend over the back, with my hands on the other chair. The options are endless, lol...


I will decoupage my spanking chairs, to look all spanko like. Pink with red stripes? One of the drop leaf tables is going to be my art/craft work station. So I have a place to do my painting & mosaicing...I love doing mosaic, but it tends to make a mess & take up too much space in my kitchen on the worktop...

I borrowed this pic, from the site
' Kimberly Sleep Spanking '
I do like that position,
I have been spanked  in that position,
but, Nah! The table would collapse on me...

Being a drop leaf table, it is narrow enough to bend over, so your arms & head are low, bottom high...I remember being caned, from cold, whilst bent over my old dining table...Sooo! My new years resolution for 2015, is to get back into spanking & maybe going to events. I will decoupage my spanking chairs. Might decoupage my drop leaf/spanking table, as well...

The only problem is. How do I get back into it, after so long & having lost my confidence. I am working on my confidence. Getting everything scene like into perspective. Though. I am adamant that I will no longer accept being treated like I am the safe option. I am going to be the 'best option'. Of course I will still be myself, just a more confident, less likely to settle for whatever, me...

My kind of spanking...{My Personal Thinking Spot: Determination after a long Week...}

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My Personal Thinking Spot: Determination after a long Week...: "Come on over my lap." He told me as we were just perfectly snuggled into bed together. "Really? Do I have too?" I ask...



"My kind of spanking...Not a punishment spanking, just a almost unbearable, total release; ultra relaxation spanking...Love it..."