Are fem subs who are looking for a Daddy Dom. Looking for the attention they had when they was growing up. Or missed when they was growing up??? Or they could just be into Daddy, daughter age play. What do I know, lol...

Gawd! I had a bad night. Well a night of watching Dexter. Strange how you end up loving Dexter, even though he is a murderer. Though. He does only kill bad people...

I know. What has Dexter got to do with spanking...Mind you. On an episode I watched last night. Or was it this morning...Anyway. Dexters policewoman sister has fallen for the 'mature' FBI agent, who has been called in to catch Dexter...

It's complicated...To cut a long story short. The 'mature' FBI agent says to Debbera {Dexters sister}...With the age difference, you're not to old to spank {Or words to that effect}. Then he smacked her on the bottom...

Love being spanked in that position,
but nooo teddies on my bed...

Personally. I think she should be given a long hard, bare bottom spanking over his knee...I know. Its fiction...but...She is so obviously insecure. So obviously needs a Daddy figure in her life. Because growing up. Dexter got all the attention from their father...Its a long story. If you watch Dexter you will know what I am waffling on about...

It got me thinking {No it does not hurt}

"Are fem subs who are looking for a Daddy Dom. Looking for the attention they had when they was growing up. Or missed when they was growing up??? Or they could just be into Daddy, daughter ageplay. What do I know, lol..."

Ohh! Yes! The reason why I think she should be given, a long hard bare bottom spanking, over his knee. Because she is sooo! insecure. The painful, humiliating spanking would be a release. The release you get from a long, intense spanking session, is "Wooo!" I would recommend it as therapy...

Would love to be spanked in that position...
Over a branch like that, in a woods like that...
With nooo! interruptions,
of course, lol...
Early in the morning...
A cool breeze blowing across my hot bottom & pussy...
"Bliss!"

That said...It would only be a positive release, if you was being spanked by a Dom who treats you with respect. A Dom who is emotionally insecure himself {Or herself} would be more emotionally destructive. I don't think it is good for anyone to be treated like s**t, by an insecure person, who seems to get off on other people's hurt...& I don't just mean pain from the spanking...

Spanking is supposed to be fun...& sexual, sensual, erotic, a release, total relaxation. It is supposed to leave you feeling good; not bad. So. I think it is important to steer clear of emotionally screwed up people, who in the long run do you more bad then good; give you more stress, hassle, grief then pleasure...

Sooo! I'm looking for a Daddy, daughter relationship. Maybe when I was in my twenties. If I had got into spanking in my twenties. I know I would have loved to be spanked at that age...but I waited until I was in my 30's. Now I am in my 40's. No way could I pretend to be a little girl, role play or not. It is too close to home for me...having 3 daughters...

Ohh! Yeah! To the arrogant, rude, control freak, abuser. Who decided to bully me. JUST because I asked to meet face to face for a coffee & a chat. In a neutral place...Rather then be cyber Dommed. Wasting my time...Apparently I should stay at home & take care of my daughters & husband...Unbelievable!

So why do certain people feel they can get away with bullying other people, from the safety of their own home. Hidden behind their screen. Anonymous! I suppose you would have to be a emotionally retarded, insecure, arsehole with women issues...Those type of people I try to avoid. Too much unnecessary, unprovoked, hassle. Yet there they are. So here we are sifting through the s**t to find a decent 'safe,sane' Dom...

I have lots of fond memories of being caned whilst bent over the back of the settee. Just the right position for Sir to cane my sit spot "Oowww!"

I was just listening to a youtube video clip about how our thoughts affect the energy around us. Positive energy has a higher vibration then negative energy...

So. I am going to fill my spanking blog with spanking pictures which make me tingle. As in pictures which make me feel "Mmmm!" I want to be spanked like that. I wish that was me in that position...

Mind you. My arms tied like that, bent behind my back..."Ouch!" I might well be thinking more about the pain in my arms then in my bottom...Good arm stretch though, for toning your arms...

I was just remembering being spanked in that position, but I was not restrained. It is quite a comfy position. If you have a cushion under your knees of course. I don't mind my bottom burning, but nooo carpet burns please...

If you was tied up like that; you could literally not move. Not wriggle away from the painful stinging spanks..."Mmmm!" I think that would be quite...Ummm! 'Intense!' I suppose. I imagine you could take even more pain then usual, because your mind would be focused on how restrained you are. I think I would like to try that spanking position. Of course I would have to trust the Dom I am playing with...

This picture brings back many fond memories & makes me want a good leathering, whilst bent over the arm of the settee...{Sighs}

I tried to go back to my lady Karen, promiscuous ward of Sir Stephen; fantasy melodrama, last night...but I fell asleep. I'll try again tonight...

You never know. Maybe the high frequency vibrations will reach my ideal Dom. Who is also highly charged with erotic kinky energy, lol...

My ideal Dom will be on the same frequency as me, but he will get his pleasure from giving me a very 'Mmmm!' pleasurable, 'intense!' thrashing. One of the many pleasures I got from playing with my Ex ex Dom. I could feel how much he was enjoying spanking me...No. Not that...Sheesh!

I feel my last D/s relationship
broke down through lack of effort...

Though. That can be quite nice...Just not with a near stranger who is just after free sex. I am not looking for a bloke to have sex with. I am into being spanked, not sex. If I want sex I will go to a sex club with my husband...

Actually I have been to a sex/swinging party with my husband, but it was sooo! boring...{Yawns!} Mind you the hosts had no idea about setting the mood. Bright lights & no music does not set the mood for dirty sex with a complete stranger...Mind you I am not into dirty sex...Definitely not into creepy, pervy, leering old men {Shudders!}...

A couple at this party were into dogging. They was telling us all about it. I was thinking 'Eeeewww!' Do I really want to get intimate with you. I don't know what I might catch...

I love this picture, but I don't like corner time. I am not into corner time. I avoid bossy Doms who think it is their Domly right to force me into absolute obedience in the corner...WTF!... %^&^ off! & find a woman into standing or kneeling in corners...

Also. I avoid arrogant Dom's who believe it is their Dom given right to punish me & dictate how I behave. You don't like women who swear? Don't give me cause to swear at you then...Hmmm!

{Smiles sweetly & flutters eyelashes}

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I need longer legs to get into that position. Or a chair with a lower back of course...I have lots of fond memories of being caned whilst bent over the back of the settee. Just the right position for Sir to cane my sit spot "Oowww!"  I used to end up kicking both legs up at the same time...I do miss being given long, almost unbearable thrashings, where I end up floating off into subbie land...

Actually I don't think I could take that much of a caning now days. I will have to build up. A bit like with exercise, lol...

Spanking Art Of Paula Meadows , Patty,and Sarah Swain

There Are Devilish Thought Even In The Most Angelic Minds...

Looking at spanking pictures got me so turned on, I needed to take a bath for some private 'alone' time. All I need now is to keep myself motivated towards my goal of slimming into my bloomers...

I have a bloomer thing going on, lol...I think I was born in the wrong era, but then again; imagine NO! internet 'Gasp!'...Also. All that being a subservient 'lady' I can be a lady, but not sure about the subservient part. I would spend sooo much time over my Masters knee...'Mmmm!'...

I used to help myself full asleep, by fantasising about my own spanking melodrama...I was lady Karen. Sir Stephens {My Ex ex Dom} promiscuous ward...It did used to help me sleep...A virtual spanking & a orgasm, what more do you need, lol...Other then the real spanking {Sighs}

I believe in the power of our own mind. I believe in visualisation. I don't believe in airy, fairy, magic, but I do believe we are capable of manifesting what we most want through our own thoughts. When I was fantasising about being lady Karen, being spanked by Sir Stephen. I was getting exactly what I fantasised about. As soon as I stopped fantasising I stopped getting the 'Mmmm!' spankings. Probably because when I was fantasising about it I was more open to receive it...

Oo! Interesting position. In my fantasy there would not be lots of people standing around watching. It would not be a soldier. It would be my guardian 'Sir Stephen' In a field, bent over a water trough. Surrounded by woodland. Our horses grazing on the lush meadow grass...

Imagine the cool breeze blowing across your stinging, burning welts...{Sighs}

I have been having trouble sleeping lately. Maybe I should go back to my fantasy melodrama. I used to fall asleep pretty quick & sleep quite well...I also was having a great time with my then Dom...

K will be here soon. For our usual red wine & a good old natter; evening...

We do miss going to spanking parties, but the way the parties used to be. I miss playing with lots of different men {Party spankings} Also. That feeling of playing with lots of different Doms. Then going over my Sirs knee for a spanking which always felt so much better, because we had that close connection which comes from playing one to one; comes from having a close D/s relationship. It is a pity that all changed...Ohh well. Life goes on. Maybe one day I will have that kind of D/s relationship & close connection with another Dom...

Gotta go...........................................

A Well Deserved Caning!

Roll on new years day. I can't wait to get started on my 'healthy eating' {mediterranean} diet...Once all the booze {Well advocat} has gone {I can drink red wine on my mediterranean diet} & all the chocolates, mince pies, 'Mmmm!' boozy cream...Anyway. Once the Christmas grub has gone we {Hubby is joining me} will stock up the cupboards, fridge & freezer with healthy stuff...

A well deserved caning...

My favorite implement. I love being caned, but I only get pleasure being caned, when I can totally relax & let myself go, knowing that the Dom caning me is not going to go to far & cause me lasting damage...

I have many fond memories of being caned in that position...The almost unbearable, sharp cutting, burning pain, building up from a sharp sting to...hot, burning, no pain just pleasure. The pain is still there but I am getting pleasure from it rather then wanting to pull away from it. I lift my bottom to meet each burning stroke, instead of squirming to escape.............................................

Art by Max Safonov

"Mmmm!" I would love to be thrashed in that position, but by a priest/Dom... please...

Looking at that picture, I can almost imagine the pain...'Bliss!'...

A Good Old Fashioned Over The Knee Spanking-Sir Sitting On A Kitchen Chair-Or Caned Whilst Bent Over My New Dining Table...

I borrowed this picture, from the blog
'My personal thinking spot" {good blog name}

Wow! I must be losing my subbie side...I just realised. That the whole time I was looking at tables & chairs, it never once crossed my mind 'Bent over the table for a caning'...Or...Over the knee spanking, with my Dom/spanker, sitting on the chair. I love over the knee spanking in that position, but, it never entered my mind...

I still have all the fond, 'Mmmm!' memories...Luckily for me, or unluckily, which ever way you look at it, I have got one of these annoying, aggravating memories, where I remember stuff from years ago, including the niggly little details. The 'Mmmm!' details are fine, its just the negative stuff I could do with forgetting...

I borrowed this picture from the  blog
'Words on the bottom' {Another good blog name}

As we bought 2 tables & 8 chairs, which turned into 12, when I opened one of the drop leaf tables; for christmas. I now have a spare chair, to turn into my over the knee spanking chair. Oo! Or kneel on the seat of one chair, bend over the back, with my hands on the other chair. The options are endless, lol...


I will decoupage my spanking chairs, to look all spanko like. Pink with red stripes? One of the drop leaf tables is going to be my art/craft work station. So I have a place to do my painting & mosaicing...I love doing mosaic, but it tends to make a mess & take up too much space in my kitchen on the worktop...

I borrowed this pic, from the site
' Kimberly Sleep Spanking '
I do like that position,
I have been spanked  in that position,
but, Nah! The table would collapse on me...

Being a drop leaf table, it is narrow enough to bend over, so your arms & head are low, bottom high...I remember being caned, from cold, whilst bent over my old dining table...Sooo! My new years resolution for 2015, is to get back into spanking & maybe going to events. I will decoupage my spanking chairs. Might decoupage my drop leaf/spanking table, as well...

The only problem is. How do I get back into it, after so long & having lost my confidence. I am working on my confidence. Getting everything scene like into perspective. Though. I am adamant that I will no longer accept being treated like I am the safe option. I am going to be the 'best option'. Of course I will still be myself, just a more confident, less likely to settle for whatever, me...