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"Grey" Told By Christian Grey...

The wait is almost over! For the readers who wanted to read Fifty Shades of Grey Trilogy from Christian Grey's POV -- on June 18 (Christian Grey's birthday) the book GREY: Fifty Shades of Grey told by Christian Grey will be released!

Enjoy! #FSoG #GREY

I'm definitely buying that book. I enjoyed reading the 50 shades of grey trilogy. Now I'm waiting for the movie to come out on box office, so I can watch it, I didn't fancy watching it at the cinema...

I know. LOTS! of kinky peeps into BDSM, spanking etc, detest the book. FKY! Its only a story. You know 'Fiction'. Calm down it is not about your life. Also it is aimed at the vanilla audience, not the kinky, BDSM, spanko folk. Portraying the scene to a vanilla audience would probably freak them out, lol...

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Yo, where my Doms at? (Keeping it real one day at a time)

Journal Entry 

Innermind's Writing  39M Dom (Atlanta, Georgia)

The funniest thing about this whole purist discussion on Dominance and submission is that in reality, in the world of kink, there's very few people interested in being a true anything, they are the minority, yet we sometimes make it seem so important. The majority of folks are just kinksters looking to do kinky shit. As long as you're representing yourself honestly and pursuing experiences or relationships that you want to be a part of, nothing is more real than that.

I've gone to munches, events and conventions and what I run across is a wide variety of people looking for different kinks and different types of relationships. Are their Doms and Submissives to be found, most certainly, but even under the umbrella of those words, there's a huge spectrum of people and what exactly they're looking for is as different as their height and weight are to each other. I'm all about being inclusive, I wouldn't want to be part of a kink community that was exclusive.

In my travels and experiences, I've met and seen only a small amount of experienced Male Doms. The majority of the males I've met, are either kinky Sadist who don't give a shit about power exchange relationships, rope tops or just dudes looking for some kinky sex. The gentleman wanting and experienced in power exchange relationships are pretty limited.

Even on fet, a whole bunch of people are not Dominants. And out of the ones who claim the title, only a portion of them have actually owned a submissive at some point and have working knowledge of the dynamic.

The ones on here that have experience are as varied and diverse as any other group of people. You have Daddy Doms, Leather Doms, Sensual Sadistic Doms, Emotional Badass Doms (I made that one up), bedroom only Doms and strict, don't fuck with me Doms.

So for a small group of people who are already broken down into sub genres where there's a lot of crossover, I don't see why anyone is interested in having a debate on what's true or real. We can talk fundamentals, theories, ideas and have an open discussion to expose templates and baselines that have long been around, but why try to limit anyone to a certain way of doing things when that might not speak to their style or personality and preferences, is beyond me. In reality, people are going to continue creating and having personal, powerful relationships that are tailored to their and their partners specific needs no matter what anyone else says, that's real, that's the truth.

I know I'll never give a shit if someone thinks I'm a real Dom (whatever the fuck that means). As long as I'm happy and my submissive is good, that's the only real I'll ever care about and it doesn't get any more real than that.